Last Wednesday night’s Bible study was awesome. We watched a sermon on practical advice for Christians who date. That encompasses just about everyone I think. What I wanted to do was a kind of recap of the great advice for you to be able to reference often. 1 Cor. 10:31 says, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” This certainly includes dating. Our goal is to be transformed by the Holy Spirit from one degree of glory to another. Take dating seriously. How you approach dating will affect future relationships – even if it’s a marriage with the person you are currently dating. Without further ado – onto the advice!
Driscoll asked three questions right off the bat. Consider your answers to these questions:
- How’s your relationship with Jesus? This is priority number ONE. He is the fountain and source of all love and good things that happen in relationships.
- Are you believing any cultural lies? Christians are called to live a life that is different from the rest of the world, not because we hate the world, but because we love them. Are you taking your cues from God and the Bible or are you believing the magazines, talk shows and MTV?
- Do you accept that marriage is more about holiness than it is about happiness? Sinner + sinner DOES NOT EQUAL less sin. There is happiness in marriage, but it is also hard work. If happiness is your ultimate goal, you will be left unsatisfied. Jesus is the only One who can fully satisfy us.
From here we will skip the prearranged marriage and courtship advice. I am going to assume everyone practices some sort of modified courtship with Christian dating. A couple points about this:
- The ultimate goal is to get married. DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME
- If you are single, maximize your singleness for God
- Don’t pursue a relationship until you are ready to marry
- Don’t set standards too low or too high
- A “date” is not “dating”
- NO NON-CHRISTIANS!!!
- Look at who is in front of you
- Use technology wisely
- NO SEXUAL CONTACT OF ANY KIND!!!
- Only people you are attracted to (this is physical, emotional, mental, spiritual)
- Only people who agree with you on issues of family and gender issues
- GUARD YOUR HEART
Finally, he posed some questions directed at men and women specifically to ask about potential mates.
For the MEN:
- Are you overlooking good women?
- When with her do you honor God?
- Are you earning favor with those around her?
- Is she modest?
- Will she follow your leadership?
- Does she have noble character?
- Can you provide for her the lifestyle she expects?
- Is she like the negative women in Proverbs? (nagging, negative, loose)
For the LADIES:
- Do you want to help this man in the course of his life?
- Is he tough enough to remain tough in tough times?
- Is he temperate and gentle with you?
- Will he be a good father?
- Is he a one woman man?
- How valuable are you to him?
- Do you want your sons to be like him and your daughters to marry someone like him?
These are great things to think about when considering whether or not to date someone. Please take this seriously. Besides being saved, the person you marry is the most important decision you will ever make. If you missed the sermon, the link is up on the Metamorpha facebook page. Love you guys…